Daygame Course London | Transform Your Approach Anxiety with Gary Gunn’s Training

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

19 September 2025

Today I am working with a brand new client, taking him out into the real world to teach him how to meet women in everyday situations. My name is Gary Gunn, and I am a professional dating coach.

Most men in the modern world are stuck on dating apps, endlessly swiping, frustrated by the lack of results. Others go to bars and nightclubs, hoping for a connection but usually walking away disappointed. The result is that many feel static and powerless, like their dating lives are completely out of their control.

The truth is simple. When you feel stuck, the only way forward is growth. You need to expand your skills, your experiences, and your confidence. That is exactly what I help my clients achieve: moving from where they are right now to a place where they know how to approach a woman confidently in any situation.

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Why Most Men Struggle to Approach Women

Many men focus too much on outcomes. They want instant results: a phone number, a date, or some kind of validation. But when you chase the outcome, you become desperate and needy. Women pick up on this energy immediately.

Instead, the key is to focus on skill acquisition. Repetition leads to competence, and competence leads to confidence. That is why my coaching is built around practicing simple steps over and over until they become second nature.

You would not try to master martial arts or boxing in one day. You would start with the fundamentals, repeat them until they are automatic, and then move on. Approaching women is no different.

The First Step in Learning How to Approach a Woman

On day one, I start with the simplest exercise possible: asking strangers to take a photo.

We head to a tourist area in London. My client will approach someone and say, “Excuse me,” pause, wait for eye contact, and then ask, “Can you take a photo of me?”

This exercise is not about getting a date. It is about breaking the ice, getting out of your head, and practicing interaction with strangers. It builds comfort with eye contact, body language, and tone of voice. Once you can do this comfortably, moving on to direct compliments or more personal conversations becomes much easier.

Some clients learn quickly, while others take longer. But speed does not matter. What matters is building the foundation. Just like in sport, you must master the basics before you can progress.

Why Body Language Matters

One of the most important elements of how to approach a woman is body language. If you rush in too quickly or stand too close, a woman will feel unsafe. If you approach with presence and respect for her space, she will be more open to conversation.

Every man is different. A large, imposing guy may need to give more distance. A smaller, quieter man may need to stand closer or project his voice more strongly. Coaching is not about one-size-fits-all. It is about finding what works for you.

That is why I run role plays with my clients at the start. They learn how to adjust body language, eye contact, and tone so that their approaches feel natural and safe for the women they meet.

Extending Conversations Naturally

What often happens when my clients start with the photo exercise is that conversations continue naturally. A woman may ask where they are from, or make a comment about the city. This creates a perfect opportunity to demonstrate the next level of skills.

I might later remind my client, “Do you remember that conversation where she laughed and leaned in? This is why she was interested in me romantically.” These reference points layer the learning process, so that by day five or six, he already understands the signals.

This approach, called layering, is one of the most effective coaching techniques. Clients build a mental library of experiences that they can draw on in future interactions.

Using Games to Teach Confidence

I often use games to illustrate key lessons. One example is the ball game for voice projection. My client throws me the ball while saying his name. Then he throws it again while saying my name. As I move further away, he must project his voice clearly so I can still hear him.

This physical metaphor teaches him how to throw his voice when saying, “Excuse me,” to a woman. It is a fun way of practicing something that otherwise feels abstract.

Over time, I have realized that these games are not a waste of time. They create breakthroughs. A visual or physical metaphor often cements the lesson in a client’s mind far better than endless repetition alone.

Setting Boundaries for Learning

Before we begin training, I ask my client to set aside everything else in his life for a few hours. Work, relationships, and problems all stay at the door.

This boundary creates freedom. For three or four hours, he can focus entirely on learning how to approach a woman without distraction. Later, during lunch, we lift the boundary and discuss other parts of life. Then, in the afternoon, we reset it again.

This rhythm keeps clients engaged, energized, and free from overwhelm.

Repetition Builds Confidence

The more a client repeats an approach, the easier it becomes. By the end of the first day, my client will be comfortable approaching women in a variety of everyday situations. He will not only be prepared for daytime parties, but also for casual encounters in places like supermarkets, coffee shops, or walking down the street.

Repetition is the foundation of confidence. Once you have done something enough times, the nerves disappear. Approaching a woman no longer feels like a big deal. It becomes a natural part of who you are.

Why You Should Not Chase Outcomes

One of the biggest mistakes men make is chasing the outcome. When you desperately want a number, a date, or validation, women sense the pressure and pull away.

But when you focus on the process—improving your skills, enjoying conversations, and being present—the results come naturally. Numbers, dates, and connections will happen as a byproduct of your growth, not as the main goal.

This shift in mindset is at the heart of how to approach a woman with confidence. It is about becoming the kind of man who enjoys meeting people for its own sake, rather than hunting for a result.

The Journey of Transformation

By the end of day one, my client will:

Feel comfortable starting conversations with women
Understand the importance of body language and tone of voice
Have practiced enough to make approaching feel natural
Begin building habits that will serve him for life

And this is only the start. Over twelve days together, we will layer new skills, explore more environments, and build reference points that accelerate his progress.

Learning how to approach a woman is not about tricks or lines. It is about growth, repetition, and becoming a more confident version of yourself. The process takes time, but it is one of the most rewarding journeys a man can take.