Five Day Game Mistakes Even Professional Coaches Make
My name is Gary Gunn. For the past 17 years, I’ve been traveling the world coaching single men. I’ve also trained a lot of professional coaches, so I’m in a strong position to show you what these day game mistakes are.
These are the same day game mistakes I guarantee you are making. Let’s get into them.
Mistake 1: Chasing the Outcome
One of the biggest day game mistakes is chasing the outcome. If you watch most day game content online, you’ll notice it usually ends with either a clear failure or a win where the guy gets a woman’s number.
But that’s not always authentic.
In fact, the most real conversations are often the ones where the guy walks away first. For example, today I’m by the Tate Modern in London hosting a course. I’ve had several conversations today where I chose to walk away first. Why? Because of a lack of compatibility.
This is where most guys go wrong. They try to stay in a conversation as long as possible, thinking they need to make it work no matter what. I’m all for experience, but if there’s no chemistry between you and the woman you’re speaking to, just walk away.
If you’re chasing the outcome, you’re missing the point. Focus on compatibility instead.
Mistake 2: Not Teasing Early Enough
The second mistake even professional coaches make is they don’t tease early enough. They’re obsessed with getting the compliment right, stopping the woman, and getting into a conversation. Then, once things are warmed up, they finally start teasing.
A more effective strategy is to tease right from the beginning. You’re not there to be her friend. If you want to build sexual tension or chemistry, do it from the start.
For example, you could say, “You look like you work in fashion.” And if she says no, you can respond with, “Actually, no, I didn’t think so.”
It’s fun, it’s flirty, and it builds attraction early.
About 15 years ago in one of my first YouTube videos, I described a heart rate monitor. If you want to be more charismatic, you have to take people up and down emotionally. Most guys are good at connecting in a calm way, but they don’t spark attraction early because they’re not teasing enough at the beginning.
You might have heard of the push-pull technique. I’m not a huge fan of that term, but it’s a helpful framework if teasing isn’t natural for you yet.
Mistake 3: Poor Transitions
The third mistake professional day game coaches make is being bad at transitions. The conversation goes well, and then the guy awkwardly says something like, “Um, do you want to get coffee?” or “Are you heading that way? Let’s go together.”
Transitions are where confidence is revealed.
If you’re speaking to a woman and you want to move things forward into grabbing a drink or going on a walk, you have to raise your energy during the transition.
When you first meet her, maybe you say something like, “I really like your outfit. Thank you for wearing it.” That’s high energy and confident.
You need to maintain that same energy when transitioning. Otherwise, the moment will feel flat, and she’ll lose interest.
Mistake 4: Taking Her Number
This is a mistake that every other coach in the world makes, except me. I do not take women’s numbers because I see it as a waste of my time.
If I’m going to approach a woman, make her laugh, tease her, be flirty, and create a connection, I’m not going to chase by asking for her number.
Instead, I give her my number. I tell her to message me if she wants to join me at a specific event I already have planned.
Taking her number is often more about boosting your ego. It feels good to say, “I got her number.” But it means nothing unless she messages you and shows she’s interested.
A much better outcome is a message from her saying she’d like to join you. And if she doesn’t message, that tells you what needs to be improved in your approach.
Mistake 5: Focusing on Yourself, Not the Client
The final day game mistake even professional coaches make is focusing too much on themselves.
When I coach someone, I may not speak to a single woman all day. That’s because I’m there for my client. My focus is on helping them, not on showing off.
Many coaches, especially newer ones, try to prove themselves. They want to show they’re good by saying, “Watch me do this.” But that makes the coaching about them, not the client.
At a higher level, you understand that real growth comes from coaching others. You improve your own skills by seeing where others are struggling and helping them fix it.
I’ve seen it happen over and over with coaches I’ve trained. They focus on what they’re doing, instead of observing what their clients need to do differently.
Stop Making These Day Game Mistakes Today
If you stop making these five day game mistakes today, you’ll notice an immediate shift in how women respond to you. Most guys don’t realize how small changes can lead to much bigger results.
For example, chasing the outcome might feel natural at first. You see a woman you like, and you want something to happen. But what you’re really doing is putting pressure on yourself and on the interaction. And women can feel that pressure.
When you stop chasing and start being selective about who you give your time to, your confidence grows naturally. You’re no longer seeking validation. You’re just being you. That shift alone makes a massive difference.
Make Teasing a Habit, Not a Trick
Teasing should never be a gimmick or something you force into the conversation. It should be part of who you are. It shows that you’re playful, confident, and not taking the interaction too seriously.
You’re not there to do an interview or to be overly polite. You’re there to spark attraction and create chemistry. That starts the moment you open your mouth.
When you tease early, you immediately create a different dynamic. You’re not trying to get something from her. You’re letting her step into your world. That’s powerful.
Transitions Are Where You Win or Lose
A lot of guys can start a conversation. Fewer know how to keep it going. But even fewer know how to smoothly transition it into something meaningful, like a spontaneous coffee date or inviting her to join you on your plans.
If you’re dropping the energy during transitions, that’s a clear sign of doubt. And doubt kills attraction.
You have to match the confidence you showed at the beginning with the confidence to lead. If you want her to join you, make it feel exciting and natural. Not hesitant or awkward.
Reverse the Chase
One of the most liberating decisions you can make is to stop asking for her number.
Give her yours. Tell her when and where you’ll be, and invite her to message you. You’ll save yourself hours of texting women who were never really interested in the first place.
This one change can transform how you feel about day game. Suddenly, you’re in control. You’re setting the pace. And you’re only talking to women who actually want to see you again.
That filters out the flakes and lets you focus on real connections.
It’s Not About You, It’s About Growth
If you’re a coach or even thinking about becoming one, this part is key.
You don’t become better by performing. You become better by helping others grow. Watching someone else’s mistakes with a trained eye will teach you more than repeating the same patterns in your own game.
When your focus shifts from proving yourself to supporting someone else, everything changes. That’s when real mastery begins.
You can still grow as a man, develop your dating life, and enjoy amazing experiences. But the next level is always unlocked by helping others level up too.
Written by Gary Gunn
Gary Gunn is an internationally accredited coach with 17 years of experience coaching single men.
He has spent years creating proven, real world systems that help men meet, attract and date the women they desire. He is also the best selling author of a book on confidence and dating.
Gary has taught in over 30 major cities worldwide and has coached more than 1,200 men globally through group courses, video coaching and one to one training.
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