A Simple Day Game Process Anyone Can Use Anywhere

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

11 August 2025

Good morning. In this post, I’m going to teach you a simple day game process that anyone can use anywhere in the world.

My name is Gary Gunn. I’m currently in central London about to run one of my two-day weekend courses. These courses are perfect if you feel stuck in your dating life, if you’re bored of using dating apps, and if you want to meet women in the real world.

Let me walk you through exactly what we’re going to do today.

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Why Energy and Breaks Matter in Day Game

The course starts at 11:00 a.m. and runs until 4:00 p.m. We break it down into 45-minute sessions followed by a 15-minute debrief. Then another 45 minutes, and another debrief. We do this structure all day.

Why? Because we’ve found over the years that when you have regular rest periods, you stay fresher and make more successful approaches.

If you’re someone who’s already actively meeting women during the day, try taking more breaks. What you’ll find is that you’ll feel more relaxed, more present, and more likely to make an impact.

I’d go as far as to say that your energy levels are crucial to your dating success. Especially when you’re meeting someone for the first time.

If you’re tired and low energy, that will come across. The person you’re speaking to is likely to leave the conversation quickly. So, taking breaks and managing your state isn’t optional. It’s essential.

Now, even if you’re tired, it shouldn’t stop you from talking to someone you like. But just know you’ll perform better when you’re fresh.

Start Day Game in Easy Environments

The first part of this course involves taking my client around London and Tower Bridge.

Why there? Because these are tourist-heavy areas where you’ll find people who are often open to conversations. They’re usually here on holiday and may even want to meet a local person.

I design the first steps of my courses to be as easy as possible. If you’re anxious or haven’t approached people before, starting in tourist areas is ideal.

Step one in this simple day game process: go to a tourist location.

Use a Rejection-Proof Day Game Opener

Step two is using a rejection-proof method to break through your approach anxiety.

Take out your phone. Ask someone to take a photo of you. That’s it.

Because you’re in a tourist location, it’s completely natural. And because it feels natural, people respond positively. You feel more relaxed. You get out of your head.

This is the beginning of building your self-confidence. You learn that you can speak to strangers, feel safe, and not get rejected.

Whether it’s a woman or a group, it doesn’t matter. The goal is to simply ask for the photo. That’s it.

Often, you’ll naturally slip into a short conversation after. Something simple like, “You don’t sound like you’re from London.”

Now you’re practicing those first 30 seconds to 2 minutes of a conversation.

This first step is all about the reps.

Build Confidence Before Going Direct

The more times you can go out and speak to someone new, the more self-confidence you build.

Now, this approach is indirect. Women don’t know you’re attracted to them. That’s fine. You’re building the first pillar of confidence.

Once you’ve got that foundation, then it’s time to move forward.

The next phase is becoming more honest and direct about why you’re starting the conversation.

That means learning how to give direct compliments.

If you’re watching this and you’re feeling stuck in your dating life or your current day game isn’t working, go back to basics.

Follow this process:

Go to a touristy area
Ask people to take photos of you
Build confidence
Then move to direct compliments

When Even Asking for a Photo Feels Too Hard

If asking someone to take a photo still feels too difficult, strip it back even further.

Go to the same location. See the women you’d like to talk to. Now imagine yourself asking them to take a photo of you.

That’s it. Just imagine it.

The more you do this, the more you’re programming your mind to take action.

Two Questions to Ask Yourself After Every Session

There are two simple but powerful questions to ask yourself after each session of day game:

What did I do right?
How could I improve?

Let’s say you go to a tourist area, but you don’t speak to anyone.

What did you do right? You went out and put yourself in the environment.

What could you improve? Next time, ask one person to take a photo.

By asking these questions, you’re programming yourself to take better action next time.

And this is the secret to success in day game: take action, then review and improve.

Accelerate Your Progress With Coaching

Now, the reason to take one of my weekend courses is simple. In those first few minutes of day game, having a professional coach by your side can save you hundreds of failed approaches.

I can adjust your body language, your tonality, your physical presence. I’ve coached men of all heights, all builds, all backgrounds. And every single one of them needs a slightly different approach.

This is what a real coach does. They tailor the process to you.

Most Day Game Videos Are Misleading

Let’s talk about what you might see online.

A lot of the big YouTube day game videos show bold, extreme approaches. While that might look impressive, it’s usually not helpful for everyday men.

Why? Because those guys are coaches. They’ve done thousands of approaches. That’s their job.

But for regular men, who have jobs, responsibilities, and lives to manage, those adrenaline-fueled approaches are not realistic.

Most of your real opportunities will happen in everyday life. A girl in a cafe. Someone at a work event. On the street when you’re out and about.

So you don’t need to go in with huge, dramatic openers. In fact, the calmer you are, the better the response you’ll get.

That’s why this simple day game process works so well.

Start small. Ask people to take your photo. Then progress into giving compliments. Then take it to the next level when the timing is right.

Be Honest About What You Really Want

Now, if you’re not confident giving compliments to women, I want to simplify it for you.

Most men are scared to say what they truly want. So they talk around the subject.

They say things like, “Do you want to go for drinks tonight?” But is that really what you want?

What you actually want is probably not drinks. You want connection, attraction, maybe intimacy.

I’m a huge advocate for being clear and direct about what you want.

I’m also not a big fan of asking for women’s numbers. Why? Because most of the time, you don’t really want her number. You want something else. And the clearer you are about what that is, the more likely you are to actually get it.

Understand Your Real Goal

In my experience, most guys who come on my course want one of two things:

A hookup
A relationship

That’s it. Once you’re honest about your goal, your approach can reflect that.

So let’s start with hookups.

You start a conversation. You create a bit of a playful vibe. You flirt. You pay attention to her signals.

If she’s playing with her hair, giving you strong eye contact, crossing her legs toward you — these are clear indicators she’s into you.

If you see those signs, and only if you see those signs, then you can move forward.

You look her in the eye and say, “I find you very attractive.”

Then pause. Hold that eye contact.

And then say, “I’m only going to be in town for a few nights. Why don’t you join me at my apartment tomorrow night at 7?”

Then pause again.

Make It Her Choice, Not Pressure

Now, she may be a bit surprised. Or she might say yes right away.

But to avoid any pressure, you follow up with:

“Take my number and message me by midday tomorrow if you want to join me.”

What you’re doing here is making it clear that you’re interested in a hookup. You’re also giving her total choice.

You’re being respectful. You’re being clear. You’re showing confidence. And that is what women respond to.

If you don’t say what you want and you just ask for her number or say “let’s go for drinks,” she may think it’s just casual. You’re not making your intention clear.

Then you end up wasting your time — and hers — by going out for drinks with someone who was never actually interested.

This is why the simple day game process works. You learn to be honest, confident, and direct.

Confidence Is Attractive When It’s Clear and Direct

Let me tell you, on my weekend courses, I’ve had clients hook up with women on the first day. Not because they used tricks. Not because they were flashy.

Because they were honest.

The women they met said it was refreshing to meet a guy who was bold, confident, and upfront about what he wanted.

Think about it. Are women more attracted to a man who speaks with clarity and confidence, or to a guy who hesitates and talks around what he really means?

When you use this simple day game process, and you grow in your ability to say what you want with calm self-assurance, women feel it. And they respond to it.

You’re not being creepy. You’re not being try-hard. You only become those things when you can’t read the room or you push too soon.

You need to learn to look for the signals first. And once you’ve got them, be confident in what you offer.

If You Want a Relationship, Adjust the Invitation

Now, let’s say your intention is not a hookup. Maybe you’re looking for a relationship.

The process is almost the same. You meet a woman. There’s connection. You say:

“I find you very attractive.”

Then you follow with something like:

“I’m going to check out the Tate Modern on Thursday. Why don’t you join me?”

Then you give her your number and say:

“Message me by midday tomorrow if you want to come.”

You’re still being clear. You’re still giving her a choice. But your offer is more aligned with the kind of connection you want.

It’s the same principle, just applied differently based on your goal.

Why I Don’t Recommend Collecting Numbers

When you hear advice that says “just take her number,” I get it.

If you’re brand new to this and terrified of rejection, then taking a number feels like progress.

But I don’t teach guys to settle for progress. I teach elite-level success.

Elite-level success means not wasting your time messaging women who were never that into you.

There are so many women out there. Especially in big cities. If you go out and speak to five women, and none are interested, that’s fine. The sixth one might be. Maybe the seventh.

What matters is that you’re not spending your nights chasing numbers that lead nowhere.

Forget the Hustle. Focus on the Real Thing

I’m not a believer in the hustle mentality.

You don’t need to grind out ten approaches a day just for the sake of numbers.

What you need is clarity.

Clarity in your intentions. Clarity in your compliments. Clarity in your offers.

And when you operate from that place, you’ll find that women are drawn to you. Not because you’re smooth. Not because you’ve memorised a line.

Because you’re grounded. You know what you want. And you’re not afraid to say it.

That’s the real magic behind this simple day game process.

Anyone Can Do This. Anywhere.

Let’s bring this all together.

This is a simple day game process that anyone can do anywhere in the world.

You start with something indirect. Asking for photos. Building confidence. Getting used to talking to strangers.

Then you move to giving compliments. You let women know they’re attractive to you.

Then, depending on whether you want a hookup or a relationship, you tailor the invite.

It’s clear. It’s authentic. It’s honest.

And with enough practice, you’ll reach a point where you can do all of this calmly, confidently, and consistently.

Why This Process Actually Works

The reason this simple day game process works so well is because it builds on real-world experience.

Not theory.

Not tricks.

Real conversations. Real energy. Real intent.

And what I’ve found after coaching hundreds of guys is that when you build your confidence step-by-step, when you stop pretending to be someone you’re not, and when you just say what you mean — your results explode.

You’re no longer second-guessing what to say. You’re not stuck in your head worrying about rejection. You’re just present, grounded, and able to make real connections.

What to Do Next

If you’ve been stuck, if dating apps are draining you, or if you’re just tired of wasting your time with women who don’t genuinely want you — then this process is your reset button.

Strip everything back to basics. Get your confidence up by asking people to take photos. Then start complimenting women directly. Then be clear with what you want.

That’s it.

It’s not about doing flashy approaches or hustling endlessly. It’s about building a real skill set that you can use anywhere in the world. A simple day game process that actually works.

And if you want to fast-track this, my weekend courses are powerful. You’ll get feedback on your body language, your tone, your presence. I’ll show you how to refine your approach based on who you are and what you actually want.

I also offer one-to-one training if that’s your preference.

Whatever your situation, remember this:

Anyone can learn this.

Anywhere.

Anytime.

You just have to start.