Day Game vs Night Game: What Suits Your Personality Best?
What’s better for your personality, day game or night game?
I’ve been coaching single guys for 17 years, and I’ve noticed something important. There’s a big difference in success depending on your personality type and where you’re meeting women.
For me personally, I’m now 40 years old. In my early 20s, I was much more suited to bars and nightclubs. I used to drink, I loved the nightlife, and that environment gave me results. But now I don’t drink anymore, and I don’t go to nightclubs. For me, day game is the best way to meet women.
The Shift in Night Game
Night game today is completely different from how it was even two or three years ago. In cities like London, when an attractive woman posts that she’s in town, she’ll get messages from club promoters offering free drinks and VIP access.
What does this mean for men? If you want to meet these types of women on a night out, you now often have to pay for a table or go to high-end venues just to be around them.
Personally, I don’t want to compete in that environment. I don’t want to be out late. I don’t want to be drinking. So if you’re someone who loves to party and doesn’t mind spending cash, night game might suit you better.
Day Game for Introverts
Many people worry about day game because they’re introverted. They think they need a wingman or group to get started. But the problem with that mindset is you’re waiting for someone else to take action.
If you’re introverted, avoid bold street approaches. Instead, try slower environments where conversation flows naturally. For example, yesterday we were coaching a 62-year-old client in an art gallery. People there were calm and relaxed.
Today we’re at Spitalfields Market in London, taking him to a vintage arts market. These slower-paced settings are great for introverts looking to meet women without pressure.
Day Game for Extroverts
If you’re extroverted and full of energy, then busier places like Oxford Street are a better match for day game. These high-energy environments allow you to match the pace and make bold, confident approaches.
One of my coaches is extremely extroverted. He’ll run up to a woman and say something like, “Excuse me, thank you for wearing that outfit today.” That kind of energy works for him.
If you’re introverted, you don’t need to match that. Just use calm body language, turn slightly, and say, “Excuse me.” Match the setting and the pace that suits you.
Night Game for Introverts
Let’s go back to night game for a moment. If you’re introverted and find yourself in a nightclub or bar, there are still ways to succeed. The key is to pick the highest-value location in the venue.
Years ago, I was coaching a client in the Midlands and decided to sit in the outdoor smoking area with the best seats by the heater. We didn’t move all night, but spoke to around 50 women.
Another coach who was with us was walking around the club all night and did over 15,000 steps. I focus on energy output per reward. Wherever I go, I think, how do I save energy and still get great results?
So in any bar, grab a stool at the bar where people come to order drinks. Or find interesting locations within the venue like themed rooms. When I was in Budapest, we sat in an old car inside the bar where people naturally came to take photos. We didn’t chase. We let people come to us.
Night Game for Extroverts
If you’re extroverted, the best approach at night is to start talking as soon as you walk into a venue. Talk to the first person you see. This keeps your energy flowing and prevents that awkward build-up of anxiety.
Extroverts can get anxious when they’re not interacting. So make a rule for yourself. When you enter a venue, talk to whoever is closest. Start building momentum early.
Also, avoid bouncing between too many venues. Most guys go somewhere and ask, “Should we stay or should we go?” Often, it’s better to stay and build something there. Once you’ve built a connection, then you can move to another venue together.
For example, in Spitalfields there’s a bar with a secret club entrance through a fridge. If we meet women in one place, we’ll say, “Hey, want to check out this secret bar?” Now we’re moving together, and it becomes a group vibe.
Day Game is the Best Skill You’ll Ever Learn
I have to say, learning day game is one of the best skills you can ever master. Take today for example. It’s a warm day in London, there are tourists everywhere, and if you have the skills, you can meet 30 or 40 women in a short amount of time.
You can arrange instant dates, make plans for drinks later, and all without needing to drink or stay out late.
Most guys are still relying on dating apps or getting drunk on nights out. Personally, I prefer feeling fresh, exercising, and taking control of my dating life.
Even this morning, my head coach Peter and I went out for a coffee around 6:30 a.m. Before we even got coffee, Peter had already approached three women. One of them texted him five minutes later.
That’s what taking control of your life looks like.
Why Night Game Might Be Right For You
If you’re someone who thrives in social settings, loves music, enjoys being in high-energy environments, and doesn’t mind spending money on drinks or tables, then night game could be perfect for you.
Let’s say you enjoy dressing up, going to high-end clubs, and networking with different groups. You’ll find that night game gives you opportunities to meet women who also love to party and socialize. If this is you, then nightlife could be your zone of confidence.
But here’s the challenge. Night game has changed drastically over the last few years. For example, in places like London, attractive women are often invited to clubs for free. Promoters reach out to them on social media, offering free drinks and access to exclusive tables. What does that mean for you? It means you may have to pay for a table or buy drinks just to be in the same space.
Now, if you’re 21 years old and you’re loving that lifestyle, then that’s fine. But for someone like me, I’m 40 now, I don’t drink anymore, and I’m not really interested in being out late. So this is why I’ve shifted to day game.
Day Game vs Night Game: Know Your Personality
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 17 years of coaching single men is that your personality should determine your approach. If you’re more introverted, you’ll likely prefer day game. But many introverted guys get stuck because they think they need to rely on a friend to do the talking. That’s not the case.
Here’s what works better. Choose environments that are naturally calm and conversational. For example, we recently coached a 62-year-old man inside an art gallery. He’s introverted, so approaching people on the street didn’t suit him. But in the gallery, people were relaxed, and conversations flowed easily.
Markets are also a great option. Places like Spitalfields Market or vintage art fairs allow you to interact with people in slower-paced, natural settings.
So don’t dismiss day game just because you’re introverted. Just tailor your environment to match your energy.
Day Game For Extroverts
If you’re more extroverted and full of energy, then your approach during the day is going to look different. In fact, one of the coaches in my company is like this. He’s high-energy and fearless. If he sees an attractive woman during the day, he’ll confidently walk up to her and say something like, “Thank you for wearing that outfit today.”
Now, not everyone can pull that off, and you don’t have to. If you’re introverted, all you need is a small shift in body language and something simple like “Excuse me.” That alone can spark a connection.
Again, this all comes down to understanding day game vs night game and where you naturally perform best.
Night Game For Introverts
Now let’s go back to the evening environment. If you’re introverted and still want to be part of the night scene, then there are ways to make it work for you.
Focus on picking the highest-value locations in any bar or club. Years ago, I was coaching a client in central UK. We went to a club, and I noticed the best opportunity was outside in the smoking area. It was cold, but there was a heater and two great seats. So we sat there all night.
And what happened? Women kept coming out to get warm or have a cigarette. We ended up speaking to around 50 different women that night, all while staying in one spot.
Meanwhile, another coach of mine was inside, walking 15,000 steps around the club trying to find conversations. The difference in energy output versus results was massive.
That’s the lesson. You don’t need to hustle if you position yourself right. In any bar, get a stool at the bar where people have to walk up. In Budapest, we sat in an old car inside a bar, and women came to us to take photos. It’s about making your night easier and more efficient.
Night Game For Extroverts
If you’re extroverted, then you need to keep moving and stay social. When you enter a venue, speak to the first person you see. It doesn’t matter who they are. It helps shake off any nerves and gets your social momentum going.
Extroverts get anxious when they’re not talking or interacting, so you need to keep your energy flowing. Talk to bartenders, mingle with groups, and bounce around naturally.
Another helpful tip is not to move around too much from venue to venue. Pick one bar and stay there. Let the environment work for you.
Once you meet someone you like, then you can lead the group to another venue. For example, around Spitalfields Market, there are a few secret bars including one where you walk through a fridge to a hidden club. When I take clients out, we meet girls in one spot and then bounce to another. It creates a shared experience that builds connection quickly.
Day Game vs Night Game: Which One Wins?
So, which is better — day game or night game?
Here’s the truth. It depends entirely on you. It depends on your energy, your goals, and the lifestyle you want.
If you like fast-paced environments, dressing up, late nights, and socializing with large groups, night game might be your thing.
But if you prefer natural conversations, lower pressure, and meeting people in everyday environments — like galleries, markets, or parks — then day game gives you that freedom.
As someone who’s coached for 17 years in over 50 countries, I’ve seen both approaches work. But the biggest success comes when men choose the environment that matches their personality and energy.
Stop Copying, Start Customizing
One of the biggest mistakes I see is guys copying what they see on YouTube or Instagram. You watch a confident guy walk up to a woman on the street or inside a nightclub and you think, “I have to be like that.”
But the problem is, you’re not them.
You have your own pace. Your own energy. Your own sense of humor. And that’s a good thing.
What you need is not to mimic someone else’s game but to create a system that works for you. Whether it’s day game or night game, you need to craft your approach based on where you feel at your best.
That’s how you become confident. That’s how you get consistent results.
One Final Thought On Day Game vs Night Game
It doesn’t have to be a choice.
Some of my clients do both. They might start their day meeting women in a coffee shop or bookstore, then head out later with friends to a bar. The skills transfer between both.
What matters is not the time of day — it’s the intention behind your approach.
Are you being authentic? Are you enjoying the conversation? Are you leading with curiosity and confidence?
Whether it’s under the sun or under neon lights, attraction starts when you show up fully and lead the moment.
So figure out who you are. Then pick your environment. Then start playing the game your way.
Written by Gary Gunn
Gary Gunn is an internationally accredited coach with 17 years of experience coaching single men.
He has spent years creating proven, real world systems that help men meet, attract and date the women they desire. He is also the best selling author of a book on confidence and dating.
Gary has taught in over 30 major cities worldwide and has coached more than 1,200 men globally through group courses, video coaching and one to one training.
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