The Physics of Dating: Master Your Sex Life with Scientific Truths

The Physics of Dating: Master Your Sex Life with Scientific Truths

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this blog, I explore how the physics of dating can improve your sex life.

Get ready to dive into the world of Newton’s Laws, energy, attraction, and more, all in the name of self-development.

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First Law: Inertia and Your Dating Life

Newton’s First Law states that an object at rest stays at rest, and an object in motion stays in motion, unless acted upon by an external force.

Your dating life can feel like it’s at a standstill, weighed down by inertia.

To overcome this, you need to apply an external force.

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Second Law: Accelerate Your Love Life

Newton’s Second Law describes how force is related to an object’s mass and acceleration.

In dating terms, your “mass” is your emotional baggage, while the “force” is your effort to change.

To achieve a desirable acceleration, you must apply a greater force.

Action step

  • Assess your emotional baggage, and make a conscious effort to let go. Focus on self-improvement and building healthy connections.

Third Law: Equal and Opposite Reactions

Newton’s Third Law states that for every action, there’s an equal and opposite reaction.

In the dating world, this means that the energy you put out will come back to you.

Positive vibes attract positive connections, and vice versa.

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Potential and Kinetic Energy: Unleash Your Dating Power

In physics, potential energy is stored energy, while kinetic energy is the energy of motion.

In dating, your potential energy is your untapped charisma, confidence, and charm.

Converting it to kinetic energy means putting yourself out there and taking risks.

Action step

  • Push your comfort zone by trying new dating activities, like speed dating or themed events. Be confident and show off your unique qualities.

The Law of Attraction: Magnetize Your Love Life

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like.

In your dating life, this means that being authentic and true to yourself will attract those who share your values and interests.

Action step

  • Embrace your genuine self and communicate your passions. You’ll draw in people who appreciate and resonate with you.

The Principle of Resonance: Align Your Dating Frequencies

Resonance occurs when an object vibrates at the same natural frequency as another, amplifying the vibrations.

In dating, resonance is the feeling of “clicking” with someone, creating a deeper connection.

Action step

  • Seek out people with shared interests and values. When you find someone who resonates with you, foster that connection through open communication and shared experiences.

Entropy and Order: Balancing Your Dating Life

In thermodynamics, entropy represents the degree of disorder in a system.

While some chaos in your dating life can be exciting, too much disorder can lead to confusion and disappointment.

Action step

  • Establish boundaries and maintain a balance between your personal life, work, and dating. Strive for a healthy mix of spontaneity and stability.


  • By integrating these physics-inspired principles, you’ll expand your dating horizons and increase your self-confidence.
  • Harness the power of Newton’s Laws, energy, attraction, resonance, and balance to experience a better love life.
  • Embrace the physics of love and let science guide your journey to the perfect connection.


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  1. Eastwick, P. W., & Finkel, E. J. (2008). Speed-dating: A powerful and flexible paradigm for studying romantic relationship initiation. In S. Sprecher, A. Wenzel, & J. Harvey (Eds.), Handbook of relationship initiation (pp. 217-234). Psychology Press. This study highlights the benefits of speed dating as a method for studying the process of romantic relationship initiation. It supports the idea of trying new dating activities, such as speed dating, to push your comfort zone and increase the chances of meeting compatible partners.
  1. Gueguen, N. (2008). The effect of a woman’s smile on men’s courtship behavior. Social Influence, 3(4), 248-258. This research demonstrates the positive impact of smiling on courtship behavior. The study found that a woman’s smile significantly increased men’s likelihood of approaching her. This supports the idea of being mindful of the energy you bring to your dates, as positive vibes can attract positive connections.
  1. Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. This study explores how asking and answering personal questions can foster a deep connection between two individuals. The research suggests that engaging in meaningful conversations can help build resonance and create feelings of “clicking” with someone.

Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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