Signs She Wants You Sexually | The Ultimate Men’s Guide (Updated 2024)

Signs She Wants You Sexually | The Ultimate Men’s Guide (Updated 2024)

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

This article will teach you the five signs she wants you sexually. I have hosted over 1,000 confidence courses in the real world and will share with you everything that I have learned about women’s sexual go-ahead signals.

It will help you to avoid the following:

  • Not know what to do when a woman is sexual with you and regret it afterwards.
  • Feel incompetent around attractive women because you do not know what you are doing.
  • Get rejected the next time you attempt to kiss a woman and feel useless and deflated.

No one should feel so weak in their dating life – it is wrong.

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Sexual attraction defined

As your dating coach, I want to help you understand the intricacies of sexual attraction, which is the powerful, instinctive draw you may feel towards another individual, driven by a desire for romantic or intimate connection. Sexual attraction is a complex phenomenon that encompasses various aspects of one’s personality, physical appearance, and emotional resonance, ultimately leading to a magnetic pull between two people.

Sexual attraction involves the ability to effectively showcase your most appealing qualities, while also appreciating and responding to the unique characteristics of the woman in question. This mutual exchange of attraction helps create a strong bond, which can lay the foundation for deeper relationships or intimate encounters.

Together, we’ll delve into the complexities of sexual attraction and how it can serve as a catalyst for fostering successful and fulfilling romantic connections with women. By recognizing and embracing the power of sexual attraction, you can enhance your ability to meet and attract the women you desire into your life.

How do you know if a woman is attracted to you sexually?

We all have that one friend who grabs our arm or nudges us and gets very excited when an attractive woman is nearby. Well, this response represents an energy that is biologically wired into us to help us put our best foot forward.

Like men, women also have a similar biological response to experience a surge of energy in their bodies when they meet an attractive and confident man.


One quick way of working out whether a woman is attracted to you sexually is to observe whether she plays with her hair when she first sees you. That is a cast-iron sign that a girl likes you sexually. To help release that energy surge, a woman often plays with her hair.

This may be when she first sees you and has an instant attraction. Or, instead, she may play with her hair as you start to convey nice things about yourself in conversation, and she gets to know you more. Perhaps when she discovers that you are creative, athletic, or have a good job, for example.

Knowing this means that you can now lookout for signs of hair-playing from a woman during an interaction.

How to engage her interest

Indeed, when you convey attractive qualities in conversation with women, this offers another opportunity for sexual attraction to grow.

Hair-playing is a good signal, but it is not a cluster of signals, meaning a group of signs indicating strong interest in you. Keep reading as I will cover this later in the article.

What is an obvious sign of female attraction?

One obvious sign of female attraction is when a woman maintains prolonged eye contact with you.

Eye contact is an action that we perform every day and likewise experience from others that we encounter in our day-to-day lives. However, making eye contact with someone we are attracted to is nuanced with different interpretations and meanings.

Prolonged eye contact

When not speaking, it is straightforward to look at a girl directly in her eyes as she leads the conversation at that moment. Yet one impactful thing you can do here is to look into her eyes when you are the one speaking. It is far more powerful.

It demonstrates confidence and self-assurance.

If you find yourself in a situation where a girl is playing with her hair and holding deep and prolonged eye contact with you, this can indicate that she is attracted to you sexually.

Cast-iron signs

Indeed, hair playing and deep eye contact together are a body-language cluster. They are cast-iron signs that there is an attraction and that she wants you sexually.

If you would like to learn some of the other signals a woman gives when flirting with you, look at my infographic below.

What are signs of attraction?

One common sign of attraction is when a woman stands with one leg crossed over the other, facing us in conversation.

I have worked as a dating coach for several years in many different countries in Europe.

I have witnessed many dating interactions in this time, and it is fascinating to see the moment when a woman becomes sexually attracted to someone.

Crossing her legs towards us

So why does a woman stand with one leg crossed over the other when she is sexually attracted to us? She shows that she does not want to walk away quickly and is content to remain in the conversation.

If we take a moment to imagine the opposing body language – this would be her legs and body facing away from us. That indicates someone who wants to escape and walk away quickly if required.

For this reason, when a woman stands in front of us with one leg crossed over the other, we can interpret this as another key indicator that she may find us attractive.

A cluster of attraction signals

If we compound all three of these signs:

  • Hair playing
  • Deep eye contact
  • Standing with one leg crossed over the other in conversation

These represent three primary body language signs that a woman wants you sexually. You can then look for these signs in any of your interactions with women and feel confident knowing when it is appropriate to progress a relationship.

What are the clear signs a woman wants to sleep with you?

One clear sign to know when a woman wants you sexually is when she touches you in a drawn-out way.

It is important to remember that there is a big difference between touching someone as a friend and touching someone sexually. When we touch someone sexually, it is drawn-out; there is a more extended contact period than necessary.

 A drawn-out touch

The prolonged pause of her touch is a sign that a woman wants you sexually. For example, she may touch your elbow in a drawn-out way, and as she touches you, she gets closer to you.

She is closing the space between you and her via the use of touch.

That is a key indicator that she finds you sexually alluring.

What are the physical signs a woman is interested in you?

One obvious physical sign that a woman is interested in you is standing closer to you than is usual. Or perhaps she moves closer to you as a conversation progresses.

She moves closer

By moving closer to you during the conversation she is showing that she is engaged in speaking to you. Remember to take note of the context and consider the other signals she may be giving that show she wants you sexually.

These include:

  • Hair-playing
  • Fidgeting
  • Touching you
  • Prolonged eye contact

One effective way of testing this is when you are talking to a girl. Move back slightly or say: “Oh, let’s stand over there.”

If she moves closer to you than before, this is a crucial indicator that she likes you sexually.


  • She plays with her hair. In contrast, there is no attraction if she does not play with her hair and seems too comfortable and relaxed.
  • Prolonged and deep eye contact. If you are speaking to a girl and she does the exact opposite. For example, she is on her phone and looking around or not paying attention. This is a key indicator that she does not like you sexually.
  • She crosses her legs directly towards you. If she points her feet away from you, this indicates that she does indeed want to walk away.
  • She touches you in a drawn-out way. In contrast, if a girl is standoffish and does not touch you, there is no sexual interest there.
  • She stands closer to you than normal. If you speak to a girl and she moves further away, she doesn’t find you sexually attractive.


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Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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