How To Overcome Short Man Syndrome: Date Women You Desire

How To Overcome Short Man Syndrome: Date Women You Desire

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I will teach you how to overcome short man syndrome.

As an accredited therapist and coach, I will guide you on simple steps that you can take to grow in confidence and date the women you desire.

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The Science of Confidence

Self-esteem is a powerful force that can make or break your dating success.

  • At its core, confidence is regulated by various hormones and neurotransmitters such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine.

By understanding the biochemical factors that influence self-esteem, you can take steps to improve your mindset and enhance your confidence.

  • Don’t compare yourself to others, especially when it comes to height; focus on your own unique qualities instead.
  • Avoid negative self-talk and self-deprecating humor about your height, as it can reinforce insecurities and damage your self-esteem.
  • Don’t overcompensate for your height by being overly aggressive or dominant, as this can be off-putting and counterproductive.

The Power of Pheromones

Pheromones play a crucial role in human attraction.

  • These scent-based signals, which are primarily detected by the vomeronasal organ (VNO) in the nasal cavity, can subconsciously influence how others perceive you.

You can enhance your natural pheromone production by maintaining good hygiene and adopting a healthy lifestyle.

  • Avoid wearing strong fragrances that may mask or interfere with your natural pheromone production.

Create an Emotional Connection

Oxytocin, known as the “love hormone,” is responsible for deepening emotional bonds and trust between individuals.

  • Stimulate oxytocin release in your interactions with women by engaging in acts of kindness, expressing empathy, and maintaining eye contact during conversation.

Creating an environment where oxytocin can thrive will increase the likelihood of forming strong connections.

  • Don’t fake interests or pretend to be someone you’re not to gain attention or approval; authenticity is attractive.

The Serotonin Connection

Active listening is essential for building rapport and fostering connection.

  • By truly paying attention to your conversation partner, you demonstrate genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings
  • This interaction triggers the release of serotonin, which promotes feelings of contentment and happiness.

Show your interest through verbal cues, mirroring body language, and asking open-ended questions.

  • Don’t interrupt or talk over your conversation partner; this can signal a lack of respect and hamper the release of serotonin.
  • Avoid closed-off body language (crossed arms, minimal eye contact) that may create barriers in communication and connection.

Foster Authentic Connections

Being open and vulnerable with others facilitates the release of oxytocin and helps to form lasting bonds.

  • Share your thoughts and feelings openly, and encourage the women you’re interested in to do the same.

This mutual vulnerability will create a foundation for a deeper, more meaningful connection

  • Don’t shy away from vulnerability, but also avoid oversharing or divulging sensitive information too early in a relationship.


  • Height doesn’t have to be an obstacle in your pursuit of the women of your dreams.
  • By understanding the foundations of confidence you can create a lasting impact on your dating life.
  • With knowledge and practice, you’ll be well on your way to building strong, meaningful relationships.


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  1. Neff, K. D., & Germer, C. K. (2013). A Pilot Study and Randomized Controlled Trial of the Mindful Self-Compassion Program. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 69(1), 28-44. doi: 10.1002/jclp.21923. This study examines the effectiveness of a Mindful Self-Compassion program in enhancing self-esteem and overall well-being. Participants who underwent the program reported increased self-esteem, mindfulness, and feelings of connectedness. This study supports the idea that building self-esteem through mindfulness and self-compassion can contribute to increased confidence and interpersonal success.
  2. Thornhill, R., & Gangestad, S. W. (1999). The scent of symmetry: A human sex pheromone that signals fitness? Evolution and Human Behavior, 20(3), 175-201. doi: 10.1016/S1090-5138(99)00005-7. This study investigates the role of pheromones in human attraction, specifically focusing on the relationship between body symmetry and perceived attractiveness. The researchers found that body symmetry is positively correlated with perceived attractiveness and is likely communicated through scent (pheromones). This study supports the concept that pheromones play a role in human attraction.
  3. Holt-Lunstad, J., Birmingham, W., & Light, K. C. (2008). Influence of a “Warm Touch” Support Enhancement Intervention Among Married Couples on Ambulatory Blood Pressure, Oxytocin, Alpha Amylase, and Cortisol. Psychosomatic Medicine, 70(9), 976-985. doi: 10.1097/PSY.0b013e318187aef7 This study explores the impact of physical touch on oxytocin levels and its effect on stress and bonding between married couples. The researchers found that couples who engaged in a “warm touch” support intervention experienced increased oxytocin levels, decreased stress, and lower blood pressure. The results of this study demonstrate the importance of oxytocin in forming and maintaining emotional connections.

Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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