How To Program A Woman’s Body To Crave You

How To Program A Woman’s Body To Crave You

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

Most men approach attraction on a surface level—focusing on words, looks, or status. But deeper connection is built at a physiological level, where a woman’s nervous system naturally associates you with positive emotional states.

This isn’t about tricks or manipulation—it’s about understanding how human beings form emotional and physical bonds. When done with authenticity, you create an experience where a woman genuinely enjoys being around you because she associates you with pleasure, safety, and connection.

Through my coaching, I help men apply these insights in a way that strengthens their confidence and ability to connect with women meaningfully. Here’s how it works.

The Science of Sensory Pairing: How Your Presence Creates Emotional Anchors

The human brain links emotional highs to sensory cues—this is why a song can transport you back to a memory or a scent can make you nostalgic.

In attraction, the same principle applies: if a woman experiences a peak emotional state in your presence, her nervous system connects that feeling to you.

How to Apply This in Real Life

  • Speaking with Intent → If she is laughing, excited, or engaged, lower your tone slightly. This reinforces a sense of calm and control, making your voice feel tied to those positive emotions.
  • Touching at the Right Moments → Introducing a light, confident touch when she is already feeling connected deepens the sense of trust and warmth.
  • Using a Signature Scent → A distinct scent, whether from cologne or natural skin chemistry, creates a memory link—so even when you’re not there, something as simple as smelling that scent can bring thoughts of you to mind.

How I Coach Clients to Implement This

I guide men to become aware of how they make women feel in the moment.

instead of focusing on what to say, I teach them how to read the energy of an interaction and time their actions accordingly. This builds natural presence rather than forced attraction techniques.

The Role of Breath & Energy in Attraction

Most men focus on what they say, but they overlook how they make a woman feel on a deeper level.

Breathing, body language, and energy control create a sense of grounded presence that women find magnetic.

Practical Ways to Improve Your Energy Presence

  • Slow Your Breathing → A relaxed breathing pattern makes people around you feel at ease. When you control your breath, it subtly influences her state as well.
  • Pausing in Conversation → When you allow moments of silence, it creates anticipation and intrigue. The lack of rush makes your presence feel strong and intentional.
  • Subtle Physical Movement → Leaning in slightly and then pulling away creates a natural rhythm of engagement, reinforcing a sense of attraction and curiosity.

How I Coach Clients to Apply This

I work with men on body awareness training, helping them recognise how their nervous system affects their interactions.

Through exercises in breathing control and situational awareness, they develop a commanding but calm presence—one that draws people in effortlessly.

The Power of Scent in Memory and Attraction

Scent is the strongest sense tied to memory and emotion. When used effectively, it enhances presence and deepens a woman’s subconscious connection to you.

Simple Ways to Use Scent Effectively

  • Choose One Distinctive Scent → Consistency helps create an association—if she smells it elsewhere, it will remind her of you.
  • Natural Scent Imprints → Your skin’s natural scent, combined with clean grooming habits, forms an unspoken signature.
  • Leaving a Scent Memory → If she borrows a jacket or spends time in your space, that scent lingers, keeping you in her mind.

How I Coach Clients to Use This in a Natural Way

Rather than overcomplicating it, I encourage men to focus on hygiene, personal grooming, and consistency.

I help them develop a personal style that includes scent as part of their overall presence, ensuring it reflects their authentic self rather than a forced tactic.

The Tactile Imprint Effect: Why Touch Matters

A woman’s body remembers how someone makes her feel more than the words they say. Unique, well-timed touch builds connection and comfort.

Ways to Apply Touch with Awareness

  • Have a Recognisable, Gentle Touch → Whether it’s a reassuring hand on the back or a subtle trace on the forearm, make your touch deliberate yet effortless.
  • Play with Contrast → Switching between soft and firm pressure creates a richer sensory experience, making interactions more memorable.
  • Use Non-Sexual Touch to Build Anticipation → A slight graze of the hand, adjusting a piece of jewellery, or a casual touch on the back of her hand makes future contact more exciting.

How I Coach Clients to Develop This Skill

I focus on understanding physical boundaries and comfort levels.

Many men hesitate with touch because they fear being too forward. I teach them to read body language cues, so they only introduce touch when it feels completely natural.

Creating Emotional and Physical Safety

For deep connection, a woman must feel both physical enjoyment and emotional safety in your presence.

When these elements align, attraction deepens naturally.

How to Build Trust While Creating Chemistry

  • Eye Contact & Slower Movements → These subtle cues deepen connection and make interactions feel more intentional.
  • Reassurance Through Actions → A firm but gentle presence, whether by holding her hand confidently or guiding her through a crowd, builds subconscious trust.
  • The ‘Afterglow Imprint’ → Small moments after a shared experience—like whispering something meaningful—create emotional depth.

How I Coach Clients to Implement This

I train men in social intelligence and situational awareness, teaching them how to balance chemistry with emotional understanding.

The goal is to create deep, lasting attraction rather than fleeting interest.

How to Use Absence to Strengthen Attraction

Many men believe that constant presence strengthens connection, but well-timed absence actually deepens attraction.

Ways to Use Absence Effectively

  • End an Interaction on a High Note → Leaving when emotions are still high creates a longing for more.
  • Delay Physical Contact Slightly → Making her wait a little longer increases the anticipation and emotional intensity of the moment.
  • Short Periods of Distance → After a deep connection, allowing some space can make her naturally seek you out.

How I Coach Clients to Use This in a Balanced Way

I ensure my clients don’t play games or create artificial distance but rather learn to value their own time.

A man with a strong life naturally creates healthy space, making interactions more meaningful.

Final Thoughts: How to Develop a Magnetic Presence

Attraction isn’t about tricks—it’s about understanding human connection.

When you focus on sensory imprinting, you become more memorable and naturally desirable.

What I Teach My Clients

  • How to cultivate strong presence and body awareness.
  • How to use sensory cues to build deeper emotional connections.
  • How to develop natural confidence in dating without overthinking interactions.

If you’re interested in refining your approach to attraction and developing authentic, lasting connections, book a free consultation to learn how my coaching can help.

Written by Gary Gunn


Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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