How to Not Be Creepy During Day Game

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

10 August 2025

Day game is incredibly creepy, especially if you don’t do it the right way. My name is Gary Gunn, and I’m a professional dating coach. I can tell you from experience that most guys come across as creepy when they approach women during the day.

It’s not their fault. Most of them are simply going against basic psychology when they speak to women. They get excited. They walk over too quickly. Their body language is off. Or they pause, hesitate, and then make a move, which also reads as creepy.

In this blog, I’m going to teach you exactly how to not be creepy during day game.

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Why Most Men Seem Creepy in Day Game

Let’s get straight to the point. If you’re focusing on the outcome, you will come across as creepy.

Last night I had a consultation call with someone who’s already hired multiple dating coaches. Most of these coaches focused on picking up women and sleeping with them in clubs. The problem is, if that’s your outcome, you will fail unless you’re lucky with timing and looks.

When you focus on the outcome, you come across as needy, try-hard, desperate—and yes, creepy.

Skill Beats Outcome Every Time

After 17 years of coaching around the world, I can tell you the only way to not come across as creepy is to understand psychology and focus on skill acquisition. That’s it.

You can think to yourself, “She’s super attractive. I’d love to hook up with her.” That’s a normal thought. But when you act on that as a goal, you’re no longer building a skill—you’re chasing an outcome.

That’s when the energy shifts. That’s when creepiness shows up.

The First Way You Come Across as Creepy

You walk straight up to her.

It sounds simple, but this triggers a woman’s fight or flight response. Imagine someone walking directly towards you with intensity—it’s uncomfortable.

Instead, approach from the side. Aim for a point 1 to 2 meters away from her. Your feet should face away, and then you turn your upper body to face her.

That one adjustment puts you ahead of 99 percent of guys.

The Second Way You Seem Creepy

Stopping her head-on.

If you’ve seen those viral videos where someone runs in front of a woman and stops her like she’s on a rail track—that is street harassment. You are blocking someone’s path and putting pressure on them to engage.

It doesn’t matter if it worked once. It’s not right.

Here’s what you should do instead:

Let her walk past you. Then, turn around and approach her from the side, again about 1.5 to 2 meters away. Raise your hand so she sees you. Say “Excuse me” clearly, and stop.

If she wants to talk, she’ll stop. If she keeps walking, let her go. Don’t say anything else.

This approach works for both of you. She feels safe and in control. And for you, if you’re scared of rejection, this softens the fear because no one knows what your intention was.

The Third Way You Come Across as Creepy

You hesitate.

If you pause, loiter, and then walk over, your energy has shifted. Even if you’re not a creepy guy, the pause and delay give off creepy energy.

Think about it: if you’re walking and see a woman, and you stop, look, then go, it’s uncomfortable. You’ve gone from flow to freeze to sudden action.

You need to train your nervous system to approach without hesitation.

That’s what I teach on my weekend courses. When you see a woman, don’t stop. Keep walking at an angle, then turn your upper body and speak. Don’t think. Just do.

The Fourth Creepy Mistake: Loitering

Hanging around waiting for an opportunity is creepy.

It happens in clubs, bars, and yes, during the day. Guys loiter in “hotspots” hoping an attractive woman walks by.

The problem is, your energy becomes stagnant. You’re not in motion. You’re waiting. Then when someone walks by, you jump. That energy is awkward and cold.

The Fifth Way You Seem Creepy

Walking too slowly.

If you’re moving slowly, looking around, and scanning for opportunities, it gives off a predatory vibe.

Instead, walk with purpose. Have a destination in mind. Move with energy. This puts you in a positive state.

And if you do spot someone you want to speak to, you’re already in motion. You’re alive. You’ve got natural momentum.

How to Not Be Creepy During Day Game

Let’s simplify:

Don’t approach head-on.
Don’t walk directly towards her.
Don’t hesitate.
Don’t loiter.
Don’t walk slowly.

If you follow those basics, you will never come across as creepy.

This applies across the board. I’ve coached in dozens of countries, from Europe to Asia. It’s the same everywhere. Women feel it when your energy is clean and confident.

Real Stories from the Front Lines of Day Game

Right now, I’m hosting one of my two-day weekend training courses. It’s Sunday, the second day of the program.

Yesterday, one of my clients flew in from Porto to London. It was his first time ever approaching women in the real world. On the first day alone, he spoke to over 30 women. And not one of them would have called him creepy.

That’s the power of focusing on skill, not outcome.

He didn’t stop women head-on. He didn’t chase. He didn’t hesitate. He learned how to move with purpose and speak with presence.

What Most Dating Coaches Get Wrong

Many men come to me after working with other dating coaches. The pattern is the same every time.

Those coaches focus on “getting chicks” or “getting laid.” Their clients are trained to chase an outcome, not develop a skill.

When I speak with those men, the first thing I ask is:

What skills have you actually learned?

The answer is usually: “Not much.”

That’s not the fault of the client. It’s the fault of coaches who market results without building real ability.

Why Skill Acquisition Makes You Less Creepy

When you’re focused on learning the skill of talking to women, all of your mental energy goes into doing it right. You’re not thinking, “How do I get her number?” or “Will she sleep with me?”

You’re thinking, “How do I give a genuine compliment?”

This internal shift makes you calmer, less needy, and ultimately more attractive.

When you lead with value, you create a completely different vibe.

A Practical Example of Non-Creepy Day Game

Yesterday, my client spent the afternoon giving authentic compliments. That was the only goal.

Not collecting numbers. Not trying to flirt. Just giving value.

Very quickly, he found himself in a 30-minute conversation with a woman. He didn’t ask for her number. He offered his instead. She called or texted him immediately.

That happened not because he was pushing for an outcome, but because he was practicing a skill.

A Woman’s Perspective on Day Game

Let me share something that really grounded this for me.

At the end of yesterday’s session, we were near Spitalfields Market in London. There’s a great vintage market there—good energy, lots of people, plenty of opportunities to meet someone.

One of the stallholders there is a woman I’ve spoken to before. She’s cool, smart, and runs her own high-end handbag business.

Yesterday, she was with a friend who started talking about how frustrating it is being a young woman and getting approached all the time by guys who do it badly.

She was saying things like:

“Guys don’t know what they’re doing.”
“They come across too intense.”
“They’re creepy and awkward.”

So I decided to walk her through the very principles I’ve just taught you. I explained how I coach guys to not be creepy during day game.

And here’s the fascinating part—she agreed with everything. She even said she wants to meet guys in real life, not on dating apps. She just doesn’t want to be approached in a creepy way.

So the issue isn’t that women don’t want to be approached. It’s that they don’t want to feel unsafe or uncomfortable when it happens.

How to Overcome the Fear of Being Creepy

Feeling creepy is just one form of fear. It’s the fear of being judged. The fear of being rejected. The fear of not being good enough.

These fears are common. Everyone feels them at some point. The way to overcome them is simple—but not always easy.

You overcome them step by step.

Yesterday, I helped my client do what I call a rejection-proof approach. That means the only goal is to say something simple and harmless, like “Have a great day” or “I love your outfit.”

That’s it. No pressure. No expectation. No outcome.

Once he got comfortable with that, we moved on to direct compliments. Again, the goal wasn’t to get a number or get a date. It was just to practice the skill.

That’s how you build confidence. That’s how you train your nervous system to stay calm.

Why Outcome-Based Thinking Always Backfires

I’ll keep repeating this because it’s the root of almost every problem in day game.

If your focus is to get laid, you will come across as needy and creepy.

But if your focus is to get better—to learn how to give a compliment, to practice presence, to approach without hesitation—you will come across as confident and grounded.

People feel the difference.

From Compliment to Connection

Let me give you another practical example.

Yesterday, I was explaining this to a client in the middle of a session. As I was speaking, a woman walked past us. I used that moment to demonstrate how I give a genuine compliment.

She had headphones in. She was walking fast.

I said, “Excuse me.” She stopped, took off her headphones, and smiled.

Then she said, “Oh my God, thank you so much. That was so lovely.”

She wasn’t defensive. She wasn’t suspicious. She felt appreciated. That’s what happens when you approach the right way.

No agenda. No pickup line. Just value.

Day Game Should Be Natural, Not Forced

The truth is, I don’t like dating apps. I don’t think they work for most people. They strip away the natural chemistry and turn dating into a numbers game.

We should meet people in the real world. Just like we used to.

But to do that, we need to learn how to not be creepy during day game.

You do that by learning:

How to approach with the right energy
How to move with purpose
How to speak with calm presence
How to give authentic compliments

These are learnable skills.

If you practice them, you’ll never need to worry about being creepy again.

Why Walking With Purpose Matters

One of the subtle things that changes how you come across is the way you walk.

If you’re walking slowly, scanning for women, you’re sending out a creepy vibe—whether you mean to or not.

Why?

Because slow walking shows that you’re waiting for something to happen. It gives off an energy of hesitation and searching.

Instead, you should always have a destination in mind. Walk with purpose. Keep your pace up. Let your body stay alive and alert.

When you do this, two things happen.

First, your energy is higher. That makes you more attractive and less nervous.

Second, if you do see someone you’d like to speak to, you’re already in motion. You can naturally divert your path and approach her from the side.

This removes that “predatory” vibe and replaces it with grounded masculine energy.

How to Not Be Creepy During Day Game: A Quick Recap

Here are the four biggest mistakes that make men come across as creepy:

Walking straight up to a woman
Stopping her head-on
Hesitating before approaching
Loitering or walking too slowly

If you can avoid just those four things, you’re already ahead of almost everyone.

Add to that a focus on:

Approaching from the side
Walking with purpose
Giving authentic compliments
Practicing skill over chasing outcomes

And you have a framework for real-world success.

Why This Matters More Than You Think

Creepiness isn’t just a vibe—it’s often a reaction to fear and outcome-driven behaviour.

It’s what happens when your nervous system isn’t trained.

When you try to do too much. When you freeze and then overcorrect.

What I teach on my courses is how to regulate that. How to make all of this automatic. How to walk up, connect, and speak without feeling like you’re faking it.

When you operate from that space, you stop being creepy—not just in day game, but in every part of your life.

The Real Reason Day Game Fails for Most Men

Most guys fail at day game not because they don’t want it enough—but because they’re chasing results instead of mastering the craft.

They want numbers. They want dates. They want validation.

But here’s the truth: if you learn the skill of connecting with women during the day in a natural, grounded way, the results will follow.

Focus on getting better—not getting something.

What Happened When I Demonstrated a Live Compliment

During yesterday’s course, while I was explaining this concept to a client, a woman passed by us. I demonstrated what it means to give a genuine compliment.

No agenda. No outcome. Just presence and appreciation.

She responded beautifully. Took her headphones off. Smiled. Thanked me.

This is what happens when your intention is clean.

And this is what I teach. Not tricks. Not lines. Just real, human connection.

The Woman Who Inspired This Video

That same afternoon, I had a long conversation with a woman at Spitalfields Market. She runs a vintage handbag stall and is someone I speak to often.

She was with a friend who spoke honestly about how exhausting it is to be approached constantly—especially when it’s done badly.

She said she wants to meet men in the real world. She just doesn’t want it to feel creepy.

When I explained the exact approach I teach, she was surprised—because no one approaches that way.

She told me, “I don’t want to be the one to approach. I still want men to come up to me. But I want it to feel natural.”

So that’s your answer. Women do want to be approached. But only if it’s done with respect, calm energy, and presence.

Final Thoughts: How to Not Be Creepy During Day Game

You’re not creepy because you want to meet women. That’s normal.

You come across as creepy when your approach is rushed, hesitant, or outcome-obsessed.

When you focus on skill, psychology, and clean energy—you’re not creepy. You’re confident.

I teach this on my weekend courses. Clients fly into London from around the world to learn this step by step. I also offer coaching worldwide, depending on the city.

If you want to learn this properly and train your nervous system so it feels natural and easy, I can help.

Because you don’t need tricks. You just need the right guidance.