How To Flirt With A Woman | The Scientific Guide For Men

How To Flirt With A Woman | The Scientific Guide For Men

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this blog, I’ll explain the fascinating role science plays in learning how to flirt with a woman.

Also, how you can use this knowledge to improve your interactions with women.

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Pheromones are chemical signals that our bodies release to communicate with others.

They can influence our mood, attraction, and even mating preferences.

Action steps:

  • Shower regularly and wear freshly laundered clothes to keep your natural scent clean and appealing.
  • Experiment with a few colognes to find one that blends well with your body’s natural odor


Dopamine plays a crucial role in creating feelings of pleasure and reward.

When flirting, your goal should be to stimulate her dopamine levels.

Action steps:

  • Suggest a unique and engaging activity, like an escape room or a dance class.
  • Share interesting stories or anecdotes about your life and encourage her to do the same.


Oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” helps create feelings of trust and emotional bonding.

To stimulate oxytocin production, focus on building a connection through physical touch.

Action steps:

  • Offer a gentle touch on her arm when making a point or laughing together.
  • When appropriate, hug her warmly to greet her or say goodbye.
  • If you notice she’s cold, offer your jacket or a warm embrace to help her feel more comfortable.


A happy and relaxed woman is more likely to be receptive to your advances.

By elevating her serotonin levels, you can improve her mood and make her more open to flirtation.

Action steps:

  • Pay her genuine compliments about her appearance, intelligence, or sense of humor.
  • Share funny stories or jokes to keep the conversation light and entertaining.
  • Display empathy and understanding when she shares her thoughts or feelings with you.


Thrill and excitement Adrenaline is responsible for the exhilarating feeling we get during thrilling experiences.

This excitement can make your connection feel more intense and help to create an unforgettable bond.

Action steps:

  • Plan a date at an amusement park and ride roller coasters together.
  • Try a new sport or outdoor activity together, such as rock climbing or white-water rafting.
  • Attend a live event, like a concert or sports game, where you can both feel the excitement and energy of the crowd.


  • Understanding the science behind flirtation can give you a unique perspective on how to approach your interactions with women.
  • By focusing on stimulating the right chemicals, you can create a stronger connection and increase her attraction towards you.
  • The next time you are speaking to a woman you find attractive, remember to use the power of science to your advantage.


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Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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