How To Be Better In Bed: A Guide To Boost Male Performance 

How To Be Better In Bed: A Guide To Boost Male Performance 

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, I provide evidenced based suggested in how to be better in bed with women.

We will explore valuable tips and techniques to elevate your skills and ensure mutually enjoyable experiences.

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Maintain Proper Hygiene

Good hygiene plays a significant role in fostering a comfortable and enjoyable atmosphere.

  • Ensure that you are well-groomed, clean, and fresh before engaging in intimate activities.

This consideration demonstrates respect for your partner and can contribute to a more inviting experience.

Understand the Power of Anticipation

Building anticipation and desire can significantly enhance a woman’s pleasure.

  • By delaying gratification and taking the time to engage in teasing and flirtation, you can create a sense of longing and heightened arousal in your partner.
  • Utilize suggestive text messages, whispers, or gentle touches throughout the day to build excitement and anticipation for the intimate encounter to come.

This approach can lead to more passionate and satisfying experiences for both parties.

Focus on Foreplay

Take the time to explore and engage in foreplay, as this can significantly enhance the overall experience for both parties.

  • This may include kissing, touching, or using other forms of stimulation.

Pay attention to your partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues, and adjust your actions accordingly.

Learn to Control Your Pace

Stamina and pacing are crucial components of a satisfying intimate experience.

  • Practice techniques to improve your control and extend the duration of your performance.

Practice techniques to improve your control and extend the duration of your performance.

Explore Tantric Techniques

Tantric practices focus on the connection between the body, mind, and spirit to create a more profound and fulfilling sexual experience.

  • Techniques such as synchronized breathing, extended eye contact, and slow intentional touch.
  • These can help you build a powerful emotional and physical connection, leading to more intense and enjoyable experiences.

By incorporating elements of tantra into your intimate encounters, you can cultivate a deeper sense of intimacy and pleasure for your partner.

Incorporate Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present and engaged in the moment.

  • By incorporating mindfulness into your intimate encounters, you can deepen your connection with your partner and enhance the overall experience.

Try to focus on each sensation and breath, and pay attention to the present moment rather than distracting thoughts.

Experiment with Erotic Hypnosis

Erotic hypnosis is a technique that can help increase relaxation and pleasure during intimate encounters.

  • With consent and proper training, one partner can use hypnosis techniques to induce a heightened state of arousal and pleasure in the other.

However, it is important to remember that hypnosis can be risky and should only be practiced with caution and proper training.

Explore Sensual Massage

Sensual massage can be a great way to relax and connect with your partner, while also enhancing the overall experience.

  • Take the time to create a comfortable and inviting atmosphere, use warm oil or lotion, and focus on slow and intentional touch.
  • Remember to pay attention to your partner’s verbal and non-verbal cues, and adjust your technique accordingly.

Sensual massage can also help increase intimacy and build trust between partners.

Practice Mindful Touch

Mindful touch involves paying close attention to your partner’s body and responding to their needs in the moment.

  • This means being fully present and engaged in the experience, and using touch as a means of communication and connection.

By practicing mindful touch, you can enhance the overall experience and create a deeper sense of intimacy.

Explore Role-Playing

Role-playing can be a fun and exciting way to explore fantasies and enhance the sexual experience.

  • Consider adopting different personas, or using props to create a more immersive experience.

Remember to discuss boundaries and preferences with your partner beforehand, and to always respect each other’s boundaries.

Incorporate Breathwork

Breathwork involves using conscious breathing techniques to enhance relaxation and pleasure.

  • Try to synchronize your breathing with your partner’s, and focus on taking slow, deep breaths throughout the experience.

This can help increase intimacy and create a more profound sense of connection.

Experiment with Different Sensations

Try using different sensations to enhance the overall experience.

  • This could include using hot or cold water, experimenting with different textures, or using massage candles or oils.

Remember to always discuss boundaries and preferences with your partner, and to proceed with caution when trying new things.

Experiment with Erotic Literature

Erotic literature can be a great way to explore fantasies and enhance the sexual experience.

  • Read erotica together, or take turns reading to each other.

This can help stimulate the imagination and create a more immersive experience.

Try Sexual Meditation

Sexual meditation involves using meditation techniques to increase awareness of the body and heighten sexual pleasure.

  • Try focusing on your breath, visualizing erotic scenes, or practicing mindfulness during intimate encounters.

This can help increase intimacy and create a more profound sense of connection.

Incorporate Food Play

Food play can be a fun and exciting way to enhance the sexual experience.

  • Consider using whipped cream, chocolate syrup, or other food items as a means of exploring each other’s bodies.

Remember to always discuss boundaries and preferences with your partner beforehand.

Practice Sensate Focus

Sensate focus is a technique that involves exploring each other’s bodies without the expectation of orgasm.

  • Take the time to explore your partner’s body, focusing on touch and sensation rather than goal-oriented sex.

This can help increase intimacy and build trust between partners.

Conclusion

  • Sex is an exploration mixed with self-expression.
  • There are many different and exciting techniques.
  • Try some to add more texture to your sex life.

 


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Resources

  1. Lehmiller, J.J., VanderDrift, L.E., and Kelly, J.R: Journal of Sex Research (2014). This study highlights the importance of communication in sexual relationships, showing a positive correlation between sexual satisfaction and effective communication among both friends with benefits and romantic partners. The findings support the notion that open and honest conversations about desires, preferences, and boundaries contribute to a more satisfying sexual experience.
  2. Schober, J.M., Meyer-Bahlburg, H.F.L., and Ransley, P.G. The Journal of Urology (2004). This study provides valuable insights into the anatomy and function of the clitoris, underscoring its significance in female sexual pleasure. By understanding the clitoris and its role in sexual satisfaction, men can better navigate their partner’s pleasure zones and contribute to more enjoyable intimate experiences.
  3. Byers, E.S. and Macneil, S Personal Relationships (2006). This study uses the Interpersonal Exchange Model of Sexual Satisfaction to examine factors contributing to sexual satisfaction in long-term heterosexual relationships. The findings emphasize the importance of mutual satisfaction, adaptability, and open-mindedness in maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Written by Gary Gunn


Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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