About Gary Gunn – Dating and Relationship Coach for Men
Gary Gunn is a dating and relationship coach for men who want to improve how they show up in dating and relationships.
Based in the UK, and with over 17 years of private coaching experience, his work focuses on behavioural change, confidence under pressure, and leadership in real social situations rather than theory, scripts, or surface-level techniques.
Coaching Experience and Background
Gary Gunn has spent nearly two decades studying and coaching behavioural change in men. His work began with his own personal transformation and evolved into a structured coaching methodology grounded in psychology, communication, and real-world testing.
Over the years, Gary has:
- Coached thousands of men privately and in live environments
- Delivered over 1,200 in-person workshops across the UK and internationally
- Worked with founders, CEOs, professionals, creatives, and men returning to dating later in life
- Helped men overcome approach anxiety, social fear, and low confidence
- Guided clients towards healthier, more confident dating and relationship patterns
Gary Gunn’s Coaching Approach
His approach centres on:
- Real-world practice rather than role-play or scripts
- Emotional regulation and confidence under pressure
- Clear communication and leadership in dating and relationships
- Understanding attraction, boundaries, and personal standards
- Long-term identity change rather than short-term motivation
Clients are coached to take responsibility for their actions, develop self-trust, and create consistent results through disciplined behaviour.
Gary does not coach through dating apps alone and places strong emphasis on real-life social interaction and personal development.
Who Gary Gunn Works With
He works with men who:
- Feel successful in other areas of life but dissatisfied with their dating results
- Struggle with confidence, indecision, or hesitation around women
- Want clear guidance rather than reassurance or validation
- Prefer direct, honest feedback
- Are willing to invest time, effort, and financial resources into meaningful change
His private coaching is designed for men seeking structured, long-term improvement in dating confidence and personal leadership.
Client Results and Outcomes
Men who work with Gary Gunn commonly report:
- Increased confidence and reduced social anxiety
- More dates and stronger attraction with women
- Improved communication and emotional control
- Clearer standards and boundaries in relationships
- Greater self-respect and personal discipline
Gary’s coaching emphasises results that extend beyond dating, often improving clients’ confidence, leadership, and decision-making in other areas of life.
Media, Content, and Teaching
Gary Gunn is the host of The Gary Gunn Show, a long-running podcast focused on dating, confidence, and behavioural change for men. He has also created extensive written and video content, including books, training programmes, and digital courses.
His teaching style is direct, practical, and experience-driven, shaped by years of live coaching rather than theoretical models alone.
Private Coaching with Gary Gunn
Gary Gunn offers private one-to-one coaching for men through structured programmes tailored to each client. Coaching is delivered via private video sessions or in-person depending on location and availability.
His private coaching is designed for men seeking serious, long-term change.
Consultation and Next Steps
Men interested in working with Gary Gunn can book a private consultation call. This is a focused conversation designed to assess suitability, clarify goals, and determine whether working together is the right fit.
Why Gary’s Coaching Works
- Over 17 years specialising in behavioural change
Gary Gunn’s work began with his own personal transformation. He became focused on understanding what creates lasting change in men, not surface confidence or temporary motivation, but real identity shifts. For nearly two decades, he has studied psychology, communication, and human behaviour in depth, testing what works in real social environments. This long-term commitment forms the foundation of everything he teaches. - Delivered over 1,200 live workshops
Live coaching is where real change happens. Through more than a thousand workshops, Gary has helped men face fear directly, take action under pressure, and rewire ingrained patterns of avoidance and self-doubt. Thousands of men have learned to overcome approach anxiety, step away from dating apps, and meet women naturally in everyday life. - Coached men across major cities worldwide
Gary has delivered coaching internationally, including in London, Berlin, Madrid, and New York. Each city brings different social dynamics and challenges. This global experience allows him to adapt his coaching to any environment, ensuring his methods work regardless of culture, setting, or lifestyle. - High-level mentorship that accelerates results
Gary focuses on the details that create momentum. Through structured video sessions and ongoing WhatsApp support, clients receive direct feedback, clarity, and accountability. This removes confusion, prevents stagnation, and helps men move forward consistently without guessing what to do next. - Trusted by high-performing men at the top of their fields
Gary specialises in working with men who are already successful professionally but feel stuck in their dating or personal lives. His coaching is strategic, tailored, and direct, designed to match the mindset of founders, CEOs, and high achievers who value efficiency, clarity, and results. - Best-selling author of the Education in Dating book series
Gary wrote his books to provide practical, structured guidance that men could apply immediately. With eight published titles, the series has helped thousands of readers move from confusion to confidence using clear tools, grounded psychology, and real-world application. - Hired by global brands including Pepsi and eHarmony
Major brands have trusted Gary to deliver behavioural and confidence coaching for high-performance individuals. His work has focused on communication, mindset, and leadership under pressure, helping professionals sharpen how they think, speak, and show up. - Recognised for a real-world, results-focused approach
What sets Gary’s coaching apart is its emphasis on action and application. He coaches from experience, not theory. His work is known for psychological depth, ethical practice, and a relentless focus on behavioural change that lasts beyond short-term motivation.
Gary’s Professional Qualifications
- BA (Hons) Degree in Criminology and Sociology
Gary Gunn studied human behaviour with a focus on relationships, power dynamics, and social interaction. This degree provided a strong foundation in understanding why people behave the way they do, combining psychological insight with cultural context. It underpins his ability to analyse confidence, attraction, and communication in real-world settings. - In-person Meisner Technique Training – Royal Academy of Dramatic Art (RADA)
Gary trained at RADA in the Meisner Technique, one of the most respected approaches to acting and presence. This training is central to his coaching philosophy. Many men overthink and disconnect from the moment. Meisner training sharpened Gary’s ability to coach men to respond naturally, stay present, and connect without rehearsing or planning ahead. - Voice for Performance – Royal Academy of Dramatic Art (RADA)
Under pressure, anxiety often reveals itself through a man’s voice. Tension rises, pitch lifts, and authority disappears. This training equipped Gary with tools to help men regulate their nervous system and speak with calm, depth, and control when it matters most. - Improvisation Intensive – Royal Academy of Dramatic Art (RADA)
Rigid formulas kill authenticity and attraction. Gary completed an intensive improvisation programme to deepen his understanding of spontaneity and flow. This training allows him to coach men to loosen control, trust themselves, and create interactions that feel natural, engaging, and alive. - NLP Master Practitioner – Six-Month In-Person Training
Gary pursued NLP to help men create lasting behavioural change rather than temporary confidence boosts. This training deepened his understanding of how language, thought patterns, and emotional states shape behaviour. It allows him to help clients shift internal narratives, lead interactions, and influence outcomes with clarity and intent. - Accredited in CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
Gary trained in CBT after seeing many clients stuck in repetitive negative thinking patterns such as self-doubt and fear of rejection. This qualification enables him to help men challenge limiting beliefs, interrupt destructive mental loops, and act from confidence rather than hesitation. - Accredited in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing)
Some clients carry unresolved emotional wounds that logic alone cannot reach. Gary trained in EMDR to help men process past rejection, shame, and emotional trauma at a deeper level. This allows clients to release what has been holding them back and move forward without being unconsciously driven by the past. - Accredited in EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques)
Many men experience anxiety physically before or during social situations. Gary trained in EFT to provide fast, practical tools that help calm the nervous system in real time. This gives clients techniques they can use immediately when pressure arises. - Accredited in TFT (Thought Field Therapy)
When working with men experiencing intense approach anxiety or fear of rejection, Gary sought methods that could deliver rapid breakthroughs. TFT allows him to help clients move through fear quickly and decisively, reducing sabotage patterns that previously felt automatic. - Lifelong Study and Literary Training
Over the past two decades, Gary has read more than 2,000 books spanning psychology, self-development, autobiography, and classic literature. Writers such as Solzhenitsyn, Dumas, and Zweig deeply influenced his understanding of human nature. This body of work shaped his belief that lasting change happens through meaning, narrative, and lived experience rather than information alone.
Not sure yet?
I’ve worked on myself but still feel stuck. Does this make sense for me?
Yes. Many men who book have already read books taken courses or worked on mindset. The consultation helps identify what is still missing and where action breaks down.
I know what to do but struggle to act under pressure. Can this help?
Yes. The focus is not more information. The call looks at what happens in real moments and why confidence drops when it matters.
I’m successful in other areas of life. Why does dating still feel difficult?
Success does not always transfer across areas of life. The consultation helps uncover the specific patterns that block progress in dating.
I’ve taken other courses or coaching before and didn’t see results. Will this be different?
Many men who book have tried other programmes without seeing real change. During the call you will experience how my approach works and why it produces different outcomes. The focus is on behaviour in real situations not theory.
What if I am not sure I want coaching yet?
You do not need to decide anything in advance. The call exists to give clarity on whether coaching makes sense and what the next step should be.
What will I leave the call with?
You will leave with a clearer understanding of what is holding you back and what needs to change to move forward.
