33 ways to create sexual tension with women

33 ways to create sexual tension with women

Written by dating coach for men Gary Gunn - Founder of Social Attraction

In this article, you will discover 33 ways to create sexual tension with women.

Creating sexual tension is more than just a series of actions or cues; it’s about forming a connection that’s both exciting and respectful.

A successful, tension-filled interaction is a two-way street that thrives on mutual interest and respect.

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Building Sexual Tension

While the tips in this guide are designed to help build that electric atmosphere, it’s crucial to be mindful of your partner’s comfort and boundaries.

Always be attentive to her signals, both verbal and non-verbal, and make sure she feels comfortable:

  • Confident Body Language: Stand tall and maintain good posture to exhibit self-assuredness.
  • Subtle teasing: Playfully teasing her can create an exciting dynamic and build tension.
  • Voice Modulation: A deeper, softer tone can add a sensual aspect to the conversation.
  • Close Proximity: Allowing her to stand or sit a bit closer than usual can increase tension.
  • Playful Challenges: Engage in playful dares or challenges that generate fun and excitement.
  • Delayed Responses: Occasionally pausing before answering adds suspense to the conversation.
  • Intimate Topics: Allow romantic conversation topics that make you feel connected.
  • Intense Eye Gazing: Locking eyes for an extended period can be very intimate.
  • Tasteful Touches: Prolonged yet subtle physical contact can boost tension.
  • Flirty Remarks: Playful comments are great as you must be relaxed and confident to act this way.
  • Complimenting Eyes: Compliments that focus on eye contact can elevate tension.
  • Tell Stories: Tell tales of adventure and how you overcame difficult periods in your life.
  • Double Entendres: A cleverly placed double meaning can add a spark to the interaction.
  • Create a Secret: Share a moment or laugh that only the two of you understand.
  • Be Unpredictable: Surprise her by being spontaneous; predictability can kill tension.
  • Honesty: Mention your plans or friendships with others rather than trying to hide them.
  • Mini experiences: It is experiences shared and not time spent together that creates a bond.

Non-Verbal Cues

  • Mirroring Movements: If she is mirroring your body language it can create an unspoken connection.
  • Flirty Glances: If she catches your eye contact, holds it and smiles for a prolonged period.
  • Lip Biting: This classic move can indicate that she likes you as is holding herself back.

Energy & Vibe

  • Maintain High Energy: Your enthusiasm can be contagious and elevate the sexual tension.
  • Magnetism: Being goal-driven in your life means you are always leading for her to join you.
  • Breath Awareness: Slow and calm breathing indicates a level of comfort and relaxation.

In Conversation

  • Pause for Effect: Pausing in your conversation builds suspense especially during storytelling.
  • Talk Slowly: Slowing down your speech can add a layer of intimacy when you are feeling close.
  • Boundaries: Do not be afraid to speak about your boundaries as these demonstrate confidence.

The Setting

  • Choose an Intimate Location: The setting can contribute immensely to building tension.
  • Dim Lighting: A softly lit atmosphere can set the mood.
  • Background Music: Choose songs that add to the atmosphere without overpowering the conversation.

Escalation & Timing

  • Escalate Physical Touch: Start with slow touches when you are feeling connected.
  • Never Rush: Take your time because tension is better when it is built over time.
  • Be Aware of Her Comfort: Always ensure she’s comfortable with how things are progressing.
  • Build Anticipation: As you feel more comfortable with each other you can progress towards intimacy.

Building sexual tension isn’t something you master overnight.

It’s a skill that takes practice, attentiveness, and a keen understanding of interpersonal dynamics.

While the tips in this guide give you a solid foundation, turning these techniques into habits that come naturally requires dedicated effort and personalised guidance.


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  1. “Non-Verbal Cues in Human Attraction”2018. This study explores the pivotal role of non-verbal cues such as eye contact and body language in creating sexual tension. Mastering these elements, it suggests, can significantly amplify your ability to generate a charged atmosphere.
  1. “The Role of Humor in Romantic Relationships” 2019. Humor is more than just a way to break the ice. This study investigates its vital role in building sexual tension and enhancing overall satisfaction in romantic relationships. The research emphasizes that humor can deepen emotional connections.
  2. “The Psychology of Mystery in Human Attraction” 2020. Maintaining a sense of mystery can be a powerful tool in building sexual tension, according to this study. The research explores the psychological mechanisms behind the allure of mystery and concludes that it can significantly elevate levels of attraction and tension.

Written by Gary Gunn

Gary Gunn is a trained coach, accredited therapist and best selling author. He offers proven, evidence-based dating advice for single men.

He has hosted over 1,000 in-person dating confidence courses across the UK and Europe, as well as over 1,500 online courses.

As the head coach at Social Attraction, he leads the team and oversees the training and courses provided, helping countless men transform their dating lives.
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